Underestimating Your (Guest)imating

One of the many questions that pop into your head after you’re engaged is “Who do we invite to the wedding?” This is DEFINTELY not the most fun part of wedding planning, only because it’s very time consuming and ties right along with your budget. The more guests, the more expensive things become. Also, keep in mind the size of your family and your fiance’s family. I have a much larger extended family than my husband, so the guestlist wasn’t as big as it could have been. That said, it was a pretty large number initially, but on the day of, it was quite a different story.

Which leads me to my next point: EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED.

I kind of wish someone would have told me this in my beginning stages of organizing a guestlist but I think my mother and aunt didn’t want to burst my shiny-glowy-so happy to be engaged-bubble. People you could have sworn on your engagement ring would be there for you on your wedding day might not show up. And people you add to your list that you don’t think will make the trip, might just show up.

My second point is: GO WITH THE FLOW

At the end of the day, the people who really love and care for you will be there. They’ll put in that effort, just as you would for them. I’ve heard and read tons of guestlist horror stories  on other wedding blogs, and I don’t want to mention any of those here because there’s no point in getting upset or worried about something, that unforunately, you don’t have any control over.

So keep those nuggets of possibility in mind when you and your fiance go over the MANY guestlist drafts you are sure to create.

Let me know if you have any questions and I’ll be more than happy to help!



Did everyone that RSVP’d show up? I’m nervous that even though we received a YES from some folks, they may not show up.

Hi! Thanks for your question!

Luckily for us, we only had one person who RSVP’d yes, not come and that was because they are a doctor and had an emergency to handle (which we completely understood). So fortunately, we didn’t have a nightmare situation with tons of empty seats. This all plays into my second point of ‘going with the flow’.

That day is going to go by SO FAST, and anything unexpected that happens that would upset you NOW, won’t phase you on your wedding day, since you’ll be caught up in the magic of the occasion. Any minor dramas that happen the day of, will just make for lively conversation when you get back from your honeymoon.

If you are feeling nervous about a few folks (and you have in mind who they are), it wouldn’t hurt to shoot them a quick email to say hey and how excited you are to see them in a few weeks. Your worries will be put to rest once they respond with a “can’t wait!” 🙂

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